So a conversation at work got me thinking of the term "player" , as well as the word "slut", and how these words get thrown around and misused on a regular basis.
now, "player" comes from how pimps would refer to themselves. so, in a way, it was a positive title. if you were a "player" you were a pimp. but in the literal sense of selling women's vagina's to other men. as that word trickled down into normal , non-pimp society it took a new form. it would refer to a guy who got a lot of pussy. basically, if a man called another man a "player", not only was it complimentary , it was a recognition of higher status where females were concerned. then, the word took a negative turn when woman started using it as a way to describe men with loose morals when it came to where they stick their penis'. so, where we stand today is that , for the most part, this is word to describe a male slut. but, i think we need to take it back. the thing is , not all guys who fuck tons of girls are players. some are just really handsome. some are really charming. some have that weird thing that , for some reason, reminds multiple girls of their dads. yup, some guys just get lots of pussy. good old honest pussy. no lying. no trickery. no mind games. to me, a player is the guy who will say anything to a girl to get inside her. like the guy who drops the premature "i love you" on a girl who is simply glad to hear it, regardless of if she feels the same way or not. "players" are all about getting what they want with no scruples. they say what they think you wanna hear and really have no regard for anything but themselves. we all know players. but the fact is, i know way more guys who just get lots of ass. so quit hating on a guy simply cause he's following his natural instinct to find a warm hole to put his baby making stick inside (caveman style). as long as there's no games being played and he's truthful, it's really just nature at work. weather or not he calls you back, that's another story.
now, the word "slut" has never had an even remotely positive connotation. it's a simple word you could say to the most virginal girl that, for some reason, still might hurt a little. I'm sure most girls have been called it, weather to their faces or behind their backs. in most cases, undeservedly. now, this is where it gets a little slippery...how do you define a slut? defining a "player" is fairly black and white. female players certainly exist. they lie to get what they want (but it's usually not an awesome boning session). but what is a slut? first off, i see slut not so much as a type of person, as it is a behavior people have at times. kinda like the same way christian lunatics look at gayness. to me, being slutty is when girls do sexual things for the wrong reasons. if you're fucking a guy cause you're lonely and need someone to cuddle with, you're being a slut. if you're fucking a guy cause his friend , who you actually like, dissed you, you're being a slut. if you're fucking a guy cause he has cocaine, you're being a huge slut. it's a funny/not-so-funny reaction that girls have to rejection , insecurity and loneliness. sure, guys do similar shit. i've certainly been down on myself and hooked up with girls i shouldn't have. but the difference is, i was still down to have sex. did i like the girls? not really. did i wanna have sex with them? totally. it's not like i did to spite myself. truth be told, once the ball is rolling, regardless of where a guys head is at, it's usually good to go. but for these girls who have the slutty moments, they will literally just lay there through sex and tolerate it even though they'd most likely rather be watching "gossip girl" at home eating fiddle faddle (although, i do think a lot of girls who love having sex would rather do that as well).
the most common debate about this is the "how come if a guy sleeps with a bunch of girls , he's the man, but if a girl does the same thing, she's a whore!?"
well, it's simple. women hold the key. if it were up to men , everyone would fuck everyone all the time. it would be vaginal anarchy. so, women control the rations. some are more liberal then others and some are scrooge mccunt. it's no secret that sex is a more emotional thing to girls then it is to guys. men can have sex while eating and watching tv and still manage to blow a load. so, because of this emotional connection garnered from sex, it carries more weight for a woman. to actively be a slut is not in their character. sure, wanting sex is , but women are obviously much pickier when it comes to choosing a partner (thank god for that). for men, the sluttiness is as built in as liking tits. i think what I'm saying is, to truly be a slut, you have to apply yourself...in a slut like manor. this means throwing yourself at guys and pretty much demeaning yourself with no regard for your self esteem. but like i said before, there's a big difference between the girl who's fucked 80 guys cause she loves sex and the girl who's fucked 80 guys and has hated every moment of it. one of them gets a high five from me and the other sucks at life.
basically, the only reason people should be having sex is cause they want to (uh, and i guess to pro-create as well. boooooring). if insecurity or ulterior motives come into play, it's all fucked up.
the beauty of this is that the "players" seem to have a keen radar for girls being sluts. so it all works out. the players get what they want and the sluts fill that tiny void in their heart for that moment. everyone wins!
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